Let's face it. The dating game these days has changed. We're in the era where an approach is now a swipe to the right on an app like Tinder where words are exchanged on your iPhone screen.
Is it just me? Don't you love the thrill of approaching a woman and finding out if there's a mutual connection? I live for it.
Besides, people are often very different behind a keyboard than in real life. So, let's get back to the basics. How can we meet people we might actually find attractive in real life?
It's simple. You just need some preparation, a lot of confidence, and you've got to seize the moment!
Women who are smart, attractive and confident might hang around in bars and clubs, but ask yourself this - are you in the best place to approach them?
Often bars and clubs are loud places where it is difficult to have a meaningful conversation and establish a real connection with your potential partner.
Above all, most of the time, people go to bars and clubs in groups, and it's a tough ask to get a woman to spend time with YOU, a stranger, instead of the people she came to spend time with.
So where does a Funky Fella go? To coffee shops, shopping centres, clothes shopping and don't forget the train and other public transport.
First impressions are last impressions, as they say.
Dress well. Use your clothes to express your personality. For example, I often love to where my leopard print baseball jacket which always turns a few heads.
When you wear the leopard print, all eyes are on you ;)
This will give you the confidence to carry out your approach and help you catch her attention as you'll stand out from the crowd.
Exercise regularly and eat well so you're in the best shape mentally and physically.
Make sure you take regular showers, smell nice, and have breath that smells like a fresh summer breeze. I highly recommend the OraBrush if you get bad breath.
There's never a good moment to approach a woman. It's always imperfect. So before she leaves the coffee shop, or gets off at her stop, you really ought to make your move. Give her a smile. Does she smile back and continue looking at you? Read her eyes and body language. If it feels inviting, this is your chance. Right now. Make it happen. Say anything! Make her the focus of the conversation… (people love talking about themselves)
E.g. "What's your name?"
"You look very warm in that jacket…"
"Do you like tea or coffee?"
What happens if she's not interested? Nothing. You walk away #WINNING because you had the balls to find out, unlike most other fellas. Your preparation above should have you feeling on top of the world, so use your momentum to get what you want, and treat every experience as an opportunity to learn.
Remember, even if you do all of the above, there will be many women who you will not connect with. Maybe there is no chemistry, maybe they're not attracted to you. Move on, there's plenty of fish in the sea!
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Sal Essa is the Chief Funky Fella & Founder of No Gunk. Fluent in French & Spanish, during his spare time he enjoys travelling, improving his Mandarin & learning from great entrepreneurs and brands.